Ok gentlemen, both cars are FIXED. I HATE throwing the parts dart, but as a true TD'er I tend to hoard Mopar TD parts, so doing so doesn't cost me any new monies. So, wether this makes ANY sense or not, what absolutely tried and true fixed my issue was a new IAC motor or idle air control valve, had 2 NOS Mopar ones so I figured why not try. It's been 5 days now and not a weird icold idle sense! Now the last time my IAC went out, it was my factory Mopar one and the car would idle way high on its own, all the time got or cold, car would cruise up to 55 mph on its own and hangout there until I hit brake. My buddy I was with had a newish BWD or Borg Warner brand one on a parts car, so I swapped mine out with that one about a year ago, just stating so we understand that failing IAC's may show different symptoms.
Ok Cats car, we changed the cap, plugs, rotor, wires as well as a NOS Mopar HEP(again I had 4 of these, 3 now), her car is FIXED. Being that it wasn't necessarily misfiring, couldn't get wires to arch, and all 4 plugs looked perfect, I'm assuming it was really her HEP. Anyway hope this helps you guys! And thank you for the support!!!